The Roundabout Way Home

This post begins with a photo of flowers, which are hard to see, unless you click on the photo to enlarge it. We’d never seen the “Naked Ladies (above),” until someone pointed them out to us. Absolutely unique: a bit of joy, wherever we noticed them during this busiest of mission conclusions. We cleaned and packed throughout the month. The young missionaries would move into our apartment (our third home, during this mission). The mission moving van found all our senior missionary furnishings gathered in the living room; the boxes and suitcases for our own car were left in the dining room. Our excellent landlord had made every little repair we noted; we enjoyed last visits with each of those with whom we had been reading and discussing the scriptures; we made sure our valiant bishop received the new addresses we had collected in person and on White Pages, the list of those desiring more regular contact or rides to church, the list of those who have no current interest in the restored gospel; and we said goodbye to each of the active members of the ward. (The young missionaries visited them in their homes, but we specialized in the less active and homebound members — so we knew more about them.) There were so many farewell moments!

We had arranged with our mission president to make a quick visit to Oak Ridge TN to see Marty’s sister. In thirty years, we had never seen them on their home turf. We drove there in eight hours, visited two days, and then dashed eight hours back to our missionary apartment. It was exhausting, but we were glad to spend that time with Amy, Dan, and Stevie… (although disappointed not to meet Tomi or the Belnaps). They treated us royally, and we were just so happy to see their home and a bit of the local area, which is so scenic. Somehow my photos didn’t stick, so here are some older photos of this wonderful family. Proud to be related to them…

Marty had pulled a hip flexor, so he was unable to stand up straight. But he was perfectly comfortable taking his turn to drive. He did, however, beg the assistance of the young missionaries to load our car that hot morning. We couldn’t have done it without them! The car was fully packed, and now we were supposed to arrive at the mission home in Bentonville AR in time for dinner. This four-hour trip took a bit longer than usual. We felt fortunate to enjoy a lovely dinner by Sister Collins, and an inspirational meeting with other departing missionaries. We left as the testimony portion of the meeting began.

President and Sister Collins were dynamic teachers who left a lasting impression on us. Of course, we never got to know them as well as the mission presidents we served as office specialists in Ghana. But that is to be expected. The Arkansas Bentonville Mission includes ten ecclesiastical stakes, parts of four states, plus there was extra time and attention given to supporting the recent Bentonville temple open house and impending temple dedication. Our particular mission assignment was the furthest to the east, just an hour from the St. Louis temple. This was an immense mission, both in geography and in number of missionaries. We feel privileged to have served there under the Collins’ leadership.

We needed to return through Colorado to our home in Billings MT, a trip of nineteen hours. So we stopped in Oakley KS one night. Once again we were surprised to see acres of windmills and solar panels in the farming country. On Sunday we made a shorter drive to see Becky and Wendell, who are our true angel supporters, dealing with mail and accounting items whenever we serve a mission. They are near Fort Collins CO. We relaxed and ate and talked and picked up our mail. And dashed on to our motel room in Cheyenne WY.

The next day’s drive was only seven hours, across the Crow Indian Reservation, which includes the infamous Little Bighorn Battlefield. We stopped as little as possible. We were eager to be home in our own bed, and thoroughly tired of driving the car.

We had an excellent property manager, Sunlight Property Management in Laurel MT. We came home to a spotless house! We will definitely use this company again. The last renter had moved out 60 days before our return, so perhaps you can guess the only thing which didn’t look quite right when we returned? Yes, our gorgeous artificial turf was ringed on most edges by foot-tall weeds — because there had been no one there to yank them as they appeared. Marty took care of the weeding right away. It didn’t take long.

All our furniture and boxes were stored in our basement bedroom and cold storage room. It took only a few minutes to extract the exercise bike, the blanket chest, and several cabinets. Voila! Our own bed was ready for us. The next morning we began to place the pictures back on every wall. Marty’s maternal grandparents and paternal grandma with her Czech wedding certificate; our tired faces in our mission shirts beside our family tree; an improved display in the living room

Plus some of my favorite family portraits, surrounding the Family Proclamation and a miniature oil painting from Parker CO. Just above that tiny treasure is a five-generation photo of Julie, Alena, Grandma Stacy, me, and my father. We are home!

I missed my daily three-mile walk during our long days of driving, so I celebrated by walking around Lake Elmo, which might be twice the size of the city lake in Sullivan MO. Not nearly so many birds and insects here — Montana is a desert compared to Missouri!

Before our mission, we painted the front door blue, which attracted fewer insects than white. We live on Las Palmas Avenue, which I think is positively hilarious, because Montana is not known to have palm trees, at all… I now have a quality fake palm tree on the front porch. Now it’s time to walk around and meet the neighbors again. The whole world seems to be falling apart, but I know that good neighbors in rural Missouri and Montana continue to watch out for one another. It feels great to be home again!

August in Missouri

Elder Z stands by the ward photographs in the Sullivan meetinghouse — old photos taken in Sullivan or at the temple in St. Louis, when the ward was larger than it is now. The small black-and-white photo shows President Spencer W. Kimball as a young missionary in Sullivan, sometime between 1914 and 1916.

Our last month as missionaries here was as busy as any. George’s multiple myeloma returned, so he was rushed to Baptist Hospital in St. Louis several times. Elder Z had previously transported him for chemo and radiation, and finally we took his wife up to visit him in this impressive hospital a number of times. We walked a couple of miles inside the hospital to get our exercise without heat or humidity.

Of course we admired the views in every direction from the upper floors. That is how we got our closest look at the famous St. Louis arch:

As of November, George is doing well. We pray every day for him, and for each of the other members. It takes the service of each one to keep that ward in operation. It seems mighty difficult to see even the most valiant of the leaders and members so challenged in their health and fitness: three struggling to stay in remission from cancer, one from a kidney surgery, others from back surgeries — many from car and motorcycle accidents. We have not felt it appropriate to share many photos here, but we will never forget a single one of those we visited and drove to doctor appointments:

Because we were serving in Missouri, we were able to drive to nearby Eureka for Katya and Omar’s wedding reception after their temple marriage. Katya is one of Elder Z’s nieces, a college student with great ambitions. Beautiful celebration… We got to help resupply the delicious refreshment tables and sign their guestbook puzzle:

We will miss our weekly trips nineteen miles (half an hour) into the woods to pick up one or another of the Holleys, and then continuing another thirty to sixty minutes northeast to Washington or St. Louis for appointments. The steep hills and quick curves, especially in the early morning darkness, kept us alert for dashing deer and cars out of nowhere. If Elder Z spotted a turtle, he tried to stop and move it across the roadway. The quantity and diversity of roadkill was astonishing (compared to our desert home): armadillo, raccoon, possum, squirrel, snake, bird, deer, and a dozen other possibilities.

The skeleton motorcycle-mailbox was a welcome landmark on this long route, and the procession of flowers seemed endless. (Click on the smaller photos for a larger view.) We will never forget the beauty and bounty of the Missouri countryside!

Apparently there are nine separate Jesse James (“America’s first celebrity criminal”) museums in the midwest — one was right along I-44, where we drove regularly. We especially loved the Sullivan parking for Electrolysis Only. “Violators will be plucked.”

Jerry– who is over 90– luxuriating in assisted living, was one of our regular stops in the nearby town of Saint Clair. He still drives, but wasn’t comfortable going all the way to the meetinghouse any more. He gifted Elder Z with an actual trilobite fossil, done up as a tie tack. We will definitely not be forgetting Jerry!

Serving as senior missionaries is all about loving and serving people. We felt very needed, worked hard every day, and finished our assignment full of memories and miles, people and places. We look forward to serving again!

Two Sweet Little Old Ladies

Last week we celebrated our liberation from covid by packing up the household of Sister A.

During 2022 she had fallen eleven times, so it was time for her to move nearer her family, in a fine suburb on the other side of St Louis. Sister A was our beloved chorister, so her colorful presence will be greatly missed. She enjoyed dressing up, sashaying her walker up the ramp to her place of honor. We honor her devotion to the gospel and to our ward. Her husband died as they were about to begin their senior mission, twenty years ago. She went forward and fulfilled that mission by herself. She always brought more than one dish to a ward dinner. She continued to can, to sew, to bake cakes, and to research her family history. Her walls were covered with framed family photos.

Unfortunately she lived half an hour from most of the members. Our ward is lucky to have fifty folks in attendance on a Sunday — and half of the number are in the rapidly retiring contingent of baby boomers. Our group is so small that we do not have enough cars to transport everyone to Sunday services. We joke about hiring a Baptist church bus… Trying to get our members to the doctor, to the grocery store, to the bank, to the barber — well, that’s no joking matter: we simply do not have the cars or the drivers to get it all done. The irrepressible Sister A once phoned a random name on an old church list. Yes, he lives in her little town, but his heart is elsewhere and he’s asked not to be contacted at this time. Sister A did not know him. She did not know anything about him. She phoned him, and by golly if she didn’t talk him into a ride to the bank. Yes, it’s time for her to live nearer her family. We would hate to see her victimized in any way.

The employed members all provided boxes from places where they work. Sister M had just packed herself up for a spring move to Oklahoma City — to be with family, because she keeps falling down and hitting her head. She generously shared her collection of soft packing materials. We had everything we needed to do a good job of packing for Sister A. It took us 23 hours, plus the substantial help of others. There were dishes to wash, clothes to launder, items to group and organize. We folded and bagged as much clothing as we could and stuffed it into drawers. We gathered jewelry items all over the house and put bagged them together in one drawer. We separated the dry food from the wet food. Sister A could open a phone store, with all the various phones and phone charging cords that we found…

I found that I’m no longer accustomed to being on my feet four or five hours a day. I got some good exercise, and I slept like a log each night. Thank you, Sister A! Elder Z likes to work out, so he enjoyed the work.

In the same week, Sister J realized that she would not be returning to her mobile home. She’s been sick and weak, in assisted living or the hospital, since before Thanksgiving. She is one of our favorite folks to visit, having made the greatest progress in reading the Book of Mormon — and consistently attends Church on zoom. We plugged in her wheelchair, so that it would be ready for the Elders to move. They took her power recliner to the nursing home. We picked up a few sentimental items for Sister J — the thimble and spoon collections from her wall, a few photos, a jewelry cabinet. Her greatest concern was to retrieve various items which she thought her friends could use: a men’s walker, a bath bench, a manual wheelchair, a foldable walker. Another friend collected the rest of her clothes for her. Elder Z cashed out her piggy bank for her, paying extra for all her copper pennies. We phoned the mobile home park this morning and are helping her to change her address.

It was icing on the cake to actually speak with the son of Sister J in another state. He is hoping to move her nearby. We are so glad to hear this! Sister J and I are the same age. In the right setting, she has many more years of life ahead. We believe her son can and will arrange a more appropriate home for her.

Usually on our mission in Missouri, we spend long hours transporting people to clinic and hospital appointments in Washington, MO and St Louis, MO. We are in a vast countryside of small farmers and ranchers — and actually, a number of factories, as well. Some of our members do not have cars. Our hope is that they can regain their health and go back to work… but that will only happen if they keep their medical appointments and work on their lifestyle issues. Our calendar shows that we are driving folks to their doctors three to six times each week. This is a very different sort of mission for us. We’ll let you know how many thousands of miles eventually are added to our car…

Once every six weeks we inspect missionary apartments for safety and cleanliness. Of course the windows and doors must be lockable, the smoke and carbon monoxide detectors must be in working order. Sometimes we repair furniture and screens, or demonstrate how to clean something in the bathroom or kitchen. Our young Elders and Sisters are quick to remind us, “But we didn’t come on our missions to clean house!” For the most part, they keep their apartments in good order. Recently another senior missionary couple has arrived in our stake. So they will take up half the apartments we were inspecting. No complaints about that! They will keep plenty busy assisting the soldiers who are members at Fort Leonard Wood.

The furthest missionary apartment we inspected was on the way to a popular tourist destination, Lake of the Ozarks. This is actually the name of one of the wards in our own stake. Many miles in advance, the tourist traps begin. So rather than photograph actual missionary apartments, we’ll show you this local treasure from Camdenton, MO:

All around us are caves to be toured; endless numbers of fishing and rafting spots in the Meramac River; countless parks and forests. There’s even a small museum for the bandit Jesse James.

But we have no interest in being tourists. Our purpose is to have gospel conversations, invite others to be taught by the young elders and sisters, and then, after baptism, to help them get in the habit of daily prayer and reading the scriptures, in addition to weekly attendance at church. We are living among good, God-fearing folks. We have additional knowledge about Jesus Christ, his gospel, and his instruction for us in these latter days. We may spend most of our time driving folks to medical appointments, but along the way, we have plenty of opportunities to share gospel messages from General Conference talks and Bible videos. We are grateful to be serving in Missouri!

The Simpsons’ Final Zone Conference

This was the sight as nearly four hundred missionaries exited from the stake center beside the Ghana Accra Temple, after a remarkable afternoon devotional with Elder Christopherson last month.  (Year round it gets dark here around 6 pm — one of the most surprising things about living in west Africa.)  These missionaries were so excited to shake the hand of an apostle, before the meeting began.  Elder Causse, the Presiding Bishop, and several Seventies also spoke to us.  What amazed us about Elder Christopherson’s talk was that he simply fielded questions.  He knew exactly what points he wanted to make, so he used each question to punt his ball further down the field… until he scored, plain and simple.  Unforgettable.

Yesterday we had a similar experience.  Ordinarily we have three multi-zone conferences, during one week out of each six-week cycle.  Each gathering includes sixty missionaries.  But we are preparing for a change in mission presidents at the end of this month, so six separate zone conferences took place.  Yesterday’s was held in the Kasoa stake center, for the Kasoa Zone and the Buduburam District (of the Winneba Zone):  just under thirty missionaries.

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As usual:  an opening hymn, a prayer, a group recitation of several memorized scripture passages.  Four missionaries gave their departing testimonies.  Sister Simpson began a  discussion modeling how to answer questions with the scriptures.  President Simpson invited Elder Farar to the white board to record hours of responses to the question, “what have you learned in zone meetings over the past two years?”

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After three and a half hours, the board was entirely full.  There was just one short break to sing and dance “You’ve Got to Accentuate the Positive,” one of our many mission songs.  Since we have been here only six months, it was quite impressive to see the detailed recollections of various missionaries listed on the board.

 

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Many of the missionaries in the room were looking ahead to baptism services soon after this zone training today, or on Sunday.  We were invited to so many different baptisms, since they all serve in different congregations.  We were happy to hear of their success.

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Instead of staying, we hurried along to do our Saturday shopping and office work.  After dark, the carpet layers asked to be let into the mission home, two doors down.  We think every last thing has been completed there, in preparation for the arrival of the next mission president.  Meanwhile President and Sister Simpson have thoroughly prepared the missionaries, and already shed a tear or two.

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In our six months we have already seen all these senior missionaries complete their missions here — 18 to 24 months — except for the Hills, who will leave at the same time as the Simpsons (top center, who have served the usual 36 months.)  The next senior couple will arrive in August, and we have heard of at least one other in process.  What a privilege it is to serve the members and missionaries in Ghana!